Mu gihe cy’igikorwa cy’abashakanye, umubiri w’umugore ugira uruhare runini mu gutuma ibyo bakora bibaryohera kandi bikarushaho kubahuza mu buryo bwimbitse. Nubwo umubiri w’umugore wose ushobora kuba isoko y’ibyishimo, hari ibice bimwe by’umwihariko bikurura abagabo cyane mu gihe cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina. Muri byo, hari bitatu biza ku isonga mu gukundwa no kwitabwaho cyane:
1. Amabere
Amabere ni kimwe mu bice by’umubiri w’umugore abagabo bakunda cyane. Mu gihe cy’imibonano, hari benshi mu bagabo bagira umuco wo kuyakorakora, kuyasukasuka cyangwa no kuyahoberana, kuko bituma bumva bejeje kandi baryohewe. Si gusa ibijyanye n’uko asa, ahubwo n’uburyo ayitwaramo, uko ahumeka cyangwa agaragaza amarangamutima bigira uruhare rukomeye mu kubashimisha.
2. Amabuno
Amabuno y’umugore ni ikindi gice abagabo benshi batinya gucika iryavuzwe. Bamwe mu bagabo banabivugaho batarya ku mugore utagira amabuno agaragara. Iki gice cy’umubiri gituma umugore agaragara neza mu isura rusange, kikaba n’aho bamwe bashakira uburyo bwo kugaragaza urukundo cyangwa gushimangira umubano. Mu gihe cy’imibonano, kuyareba, kuyakoraho cyangwa kuyakinisha bigira uruhare rukomeye mu gutuma umugabo arushaho kugubwa neza.
3. Iminwa
Iminwa nayo ni igice cy’ingenzi cyane mu gikorwa cy’abashakanye, cyane cyane mu gihe cyo gutegurana. Gusomana, gukoranaho iminwa cyangwa kuvugana amagambo y’urukundo bifasha cyane mu kongera ubushake hagati y’abashakanye. Iminwa ni urufunguzo rw’itangira ry’urukundo rufite isoko mu marangamutima, kandi irafasha cyane mu gutuma bombi bagera ku rwego rwo hejuru rw’icyizere n’imyiteguro.
Umusozo:
Ibi bice bitatu – amabere, amabuno n’iminwa – bifite uruhare runini mu byishimo no mu kubaka ubusabane hagati y’abashakanye. Si iby’inyuma gusa, ahubwo ni inzira zo kugaragarizanya urukundo, kwita ku wundi no gusangira ibyishimo mu buryo bwimbitse. Ni ingenzi rero ko abashakanye bamenya kubifata nk’uburyo bwo kubaka umubano uhamye kandi urimo urukundo n’ubwubahane.
